Something Other Than Books?!

It’s been a long time since I’ve really blogged. I mainly stopped because of things c0nnected to parenting a stepchild. There’s a lot of isses to consider that come with that. However, I discovered that a new friend is a blogger and reading through hers kind of wet my appetite to get back in. I don’t really even know where to start so leave some questions if you have an idea. 🙂

For starters…

We had our first wedding anniversary in June. I finally…FINALLY…made it to a first wedding anniversary. That was cool in itself. We very spontaneously ended up back spending the night in the country club where we got married–with a newborn in tow. 🙂 We spent most of Saturday and Sunday driving in order to stay overnight on the Saturday but it was really speial to be able to do that. The weather was beautiful for a day driving in the country so, for me, it was just nice to get out. We were very glad we took the risk! (And it was a risk because I hadn’t been comfortable driving in the car for even an hour since my Caesarean!!!)

One of my younger sisters got married in March and then one of my younger brothers got married in July. My brother married a Brazilian girl that he met when she was an exchange student out here. 🙂 I now have a married-to-my-brother sister-in-law and a sister-to-my-husband sister-in-law with the same name. 😛 My brother both got married and had his reception in the same place that Steve and I had our reception. Then I found out that the wedding coordinator for my wedding to Kallon had been transferred and was now the wedding coordinator at this other venue–she did my brother’s wedding, too! That was both bizarre and cool. I hadn’t been back there since my first wedding so that was a kind of weird feeling but not a problem.

My angel-baby has been rather challenging. She was easy-as for the first 6 weeks and I guess that’s when I really needed it. We have had a few issues to work through but love her to bits anyway. 🙂 I started off doing Babywise and it’s the one thing I wish most that I could change. Never again. She has also had a few issues with reflux and now colic but I know she could be a lot worse than she is so I’m grateful for that. Right at this very moment, she has been asleep for 3 hours (in the middle of the day) which has been rarer lately but makes so much difference for both of us. We are gradually figuring things out that help with her problems. That said, she is great at night and sometimes I prefer the night shift to the day shift!!! I have become a bit of an Ergo-wearer and even Kallon gets it on sometimes. 🙂 Katelyn smiles a lot and it’s absolutely beautiful. She started laughing yesterday and I can’t wait to see that grow! She has both smiled and laughed from a couple of weeks old (earliest I have ever seen in a baby for laughing) but yesterday was the first real time that you could say she knew what she was doing and was more than the “trying to” chuckle.

We have moved from the town we lived in when first married to a town about 40 mins away. Kallon’s mum and sister (and her boys) live here and we are loving it here. It wasn’t something we had planned but it definitely has been a good thing. We have no more moves planned for quite a while!!! Since we have bought this house, we should be good for a bit. 🙂

We have become part of an awesome country church. We felt really welcomed there from the first time we visited and are slowly starting to feel like we “belong”. There are lots of kids which is fantastic for Lukas and they are really intentional about the involvement of the kids in the church services and activities. They have a really great emphasis on Scripture memory too.

We are now 15-20 minutes from the beach which is the closest I have ever lived which is pretty cool. We are looking forward to taking advantage of that when the warmer weather comes, although we have been a couple of times through the year already!

For now, I think that’s about all that’s at the forefront of my mind. Comment away if you want something written about. 🙂

Three Years, Emotional Triggers & Firsts

I never wrote a three year blog post. I obviously didn’t forget the day but, as Facebook followers would know, I was involved in a two-day trial that spanned the ‘sad-iversary’ dates.  That took every speck of energy we had available (and more). I remembered but was forced to focus elsewhere.

After three years, you think you’d be done with all the firsts, wouldn’t you? I certainly didn’t think I had any left! However, I was wrong…

My family came to stay with us over Easter. This is the first time they’ve been able to visit us in our home since my new husband and I got married last June. It was only in the week or so before they came that it dawned on me that the last time my family visited me for the first time in my new home as a newlywed over Easter, my husband died. I knew that was totally irrational and irrelevant but it didn’t stop fear knocking at the door!

I told my husband and he understood and prayed with me about it. He was also sensitive to what was going on over the weekend when Easter did come around. Usually, Easter doesn’t really bother me. The date of Steve’s death and Easter never match up and the actual date always comes first and is passed by the time Easter comes around. This year, I really struggled with fear over something bad happening…particularly that history might repeat, but I was geared up for anything bad. My yet-unborn-baby picked Good Friday to have a very quiet day (naturally) so I was freaking out over that inside too!!

I didn’t let this battle with fear rule me or stop me and we did enjoy having my family stay! There is no doubt, though, that I–and my family–were all relieved when the weekend passed without incident. Another first down, another fear beaten, another victory won…

Following Orders

Oh, and you need to BLOG! I want a real, up to date “this is my life” blog…those short little memos don’t count….I am sorry Steve has rendered your life so boring!!!! 🙂

So says my bossy little sister! 🙂 I kind of figure people get a bit bored by a blow-by-blow account of my life or “Steve & Kristy” weekends. However, I live in mortal fear of my sister and so I figure I better blog some kind of update. So bear with me while I try to dredge something up. 🙂

Well, I can say that God was gracious to me with Steve and my last few visits. While a week apart is nothing and two weeks is pretty easy, I find that three weeks in between visits gets to be a bit of a slog. (So I’m a wuss…sue me. 🙂 I have previously done heavy-duty long distance so maybe it’s just that you get ‘over’ it…and I seem to get plenty of distance in friend and family relationships!) Anyway, our last visit was meant to be a mere day-and-a-half…all busy…and I was really discouraged about that being our only face-to-face contact for six weeks. I was trying to focus on being thankful but it was really hard work. God must have known and agreed because, as I mentioned here, Steve was able to come from the Wednesday to the Sunday and it was like a mini-vacation! It was such a fantastic blessing that I’ve ridden on that all the way through and the last three weeks haven’t been too bad at all. 🙂 I did have busy weekends which always helps!

One of the things on that busy weekend of Steve’s last visit was a bit of a sad one. My nan died a couple of years ago and left me her beautiful piano. As we have a piano in our home, I decided to leave it at her house for the time being rather than take it and leave a big ‘hole’ there as a daily reminder to her husband. A few months ago, her husband (who we called Uncle John) died as well. So, unfortunately, while Steve was here, all the extended family had to be at their house removing any or all furniture etc. I had only been to the house once or twice since she died and both times had always made me feel teary and I would have to sneak off by myself till I felt in control again. This time, we were cleaning out the house to be (presumably) sold. The house was left to Uncle John’s brother and so we have no control there. To walk into her house, filled with lots of childhood memories, and know that we were essentially ‘gutting’ it to be sold and it was the last time we would be there was a bit too much for me and I just broke down and cried. Steve is great though; he already knows that the appropriate response to Kristy crying is Steve hugging. 🙂 So that was fairly emotional but we got it all done ok. At our home, you can now find two upright pianos and one electric keyboard. The keyboard is on a permanent kind of loan and one of the upright pianos will leave with me–whichever decade that might be. 😛

One of the previous few weekends, I went away again with these ladies. I had planned to blog that, including photos, and this demand from Narelle has reminded me. Unfortunately, I don’t yet have a digital camera (coming soon) so I don’t possess any of the seemingly myriads of photos that were taken and it will have to wait a bit longer.

Another thing that has happened is that my dad went to Africa! He got a work contract for a job with Rio Tinto in Guinea, West Africa. He left two weeks ago tomorrow and gets back tonight. It will be interesting to hear what tales he has to tell. On the way, he had to fly via Singapore, London and Paris!! He spent a day in London and has some photos. I think Singapore and Paris were only airport stops. I do have some pictures from Africa that he has e-mailed so keep a lookout for those (yes, Narelle, I know you’ve already seen them…). It was a tempting thought to wish I could go, too, but since he came down sick (parasites)…maybe it’s a good thing I didn’t! 😉

Well, I will try and post a bit more random everyday-ness for you who live vicariously through my pitiful tales. 😀 As for you who have lives of your own, I’m sorry but you’re going to have to suffer through these too. 😦 From tomorrow, I have nine days off work and am sooooo looking forward to it. I should be able to manage some photos and if I don’t tell you now what I will be doing, that will give me something to try and post if I get a snatch of time…