In Honour of Valentine’s Day

Top Seven Things Women Think Are Romantic:

  • love notes
  • music mixes
  • flowers
  • surprise picnics
  • cuddling
  • dancing under the stars
  • shopping together

Top Seven Things Men Think Are Romantic:

  • seats on the 50-yard line 
  • a 1966 Mustang
  • an Xbox 360
  • power tools with a bow or ribbon
  • s*x (bow or ribbon optional)
  • baked goods
  • silence

–taken from Cupidity by Hayley & Michael DiMarco



I’d Rather the Awkwardness

For the first time since Steve died, when somebody asked me if I was married, I just said no.

I was telling my sister earlier that I hate the awkwardness it brings when somebody asks if I’m married and I tell them I’m widowed. She suggested I just answer those type of questions with a yes or a no.

So I tried it. And hated it. (Not that I’m blaming her!)

I was asked, “Are you married? Do you have kids?” I just said, “No.” The next question was, “No to one or no to both?” Me: “No to both.” They weren’t being nosy or unpleasant, just interested. I kind of felt like I was denying part of who I am. The response was, “Oh, so you’re not like your sister then!!”

Well, yes, I am actually. I’m a lot like her. I wanted to get married young and I wanted a big family. That’s never changed. I still wish I was married and I still want a bundle of kids. I just don’t control the universe. But I want to get into that conversation even less than just telling somebody I’m widowed and letting them feel awkward.

A comeback like hers just about did me in. I just said something like, “Oh, I tried…” and let the laughter over the previous comment cover most it. Instead of bolting. Which is what I really wanted to do. That and maybe be sick.

Next time…I’ll just let the other person deal with any awkwardness. Besides, they’re probably better equipped to deal with that than I am trying to suck up innocent but uninformed comments…

Two Thumbs Up!

That is what I give to the following article that just landed in my reader from Boundless

Working Full-Time as a Stay-at-Hom Wife

It is an article based on the question of a female, engaged, nearly-graduated engineer…who WANTS to stay at home. It's worth a read, no matter which side of the fence you sit on.

Good Reading

I really like Boundless webzine. They have a lot of good articles covering a lot of different topics. I can't say anything applies to widowhood but, then, this is a carry-over from my pre-marriage days which is where it really met me. Though I'm in a very different life stage now, I am (once again) unmarried so I find myself revisiting some of the same issues/topics.

Without further ado, here are some good and/or interesting articles that have popped up in my reader lately…

The Altar: Not the Finish Line

Crush Catalyst

When the Darkness Closes In

If you're not already familiar with Boundless, I recommend you subscribe!

Six Characteristics For A Potential Mate

The following article is by Dennis Rainey and can be found here. Dennis is the president of FamilyLife, a subsidiary of Campus Crusade for Christ. He and his wife, Barbara, have six children and nine grandchildren. I thought it was a great article and, since it’s copyright, I’ve only put part of it here to encourage you to click over and read it for yourself. 🙂 There are six characteristics listed for young men and six for young ladies. There are only two of each below to give you a taste-tester but it is well worth clicking over to read the rest. Apart from that, the FamilyLife website seems to have a lot of great articles for everybody!

I am often asked, “What should a single person look for in a potential spouse?” Singles want to know…and parents want to know so they can pass the information on to the children. So I finally came up with the following list:

A young lady should seek a young man who…

1. Fears God.
Some of the ways you can tell if a young man fears God is by his language and how he treats other people. Does he treat them with respect? If not, why not? We as human beings are made in the image of God, and respecting people ultimately shows a heart that reverences the One whom we reflect.

2. Is not afraid to love.
That may sound like a no-brainer, but a lot of young men today are afraid of commitment, and the young lady ends up chasing the young man. What we need today are more young men who are not afraid of being real, authentic, and committed to a young lady in a relationship. We need men who are not afraid to love.

3. Click here to read the entire article!

A young man should seek a young lady who…

1. Fears God and whose hope is in the Lord God.

Her life is going to be a reflection of where her hope is. If a young lady’s hope is in any place other than the Lord, the young who marries her is going to spend the rest of his life trying to help his wife catch a butterfly. It isn’t going to happen.

2. Honors her parents.
There is so much baggage today being brought into marriages based upon dysfunctional relationships with Mom and Dad. And even though this impacts both the husband and the wife, it’s been my experience that women tend to be impacted more negatively by this than young men. Women tend to be more nurturing and they are impacted deeply by hurting relationships. If she has a hard time honoring her parents, she will have a hard time honoring you. Find someone who has or is working to have a healthy relationship with her parents.

3. Click here to read the entire article!